“If you belonged to me” the meaning of the music and lyrics of the Wilburys song

By Tony Attwood

This is one of the Wilbury Volume 3 songs that is very obviously a Dylan piece from beginning to end, a sort of reversal of “She to Belongs to Me.”   But I must admit that both these titles have always made me feel somewhat awkward in terms of their possessiveness.  However maybe I was just brought up differently from Dylan when it comes to the question of “owning” a woman.  It’s just not something I would want to say or sing about.

A woman – just like any man – might be making bad choices, and of course the duty of friends is to offer support and help, and indeed to offer an alternative future, but in the end we all make our own worlds.  Or at least that is how it seems to me.   Traditional rock ‘n’ roll has it otherwise though.  That’s always been its problem.

But perhaps my problem with the song is that it is just too trite, and too obvious.  Except of course where we do get the occasional amusing line such as, “You say let’s go to the rodeo to see some cowboy fall.”

The trouble with such fun and games as that though, is that we then get hit by,

The guy your with is a ruthless pimp
Everybody knows
Every cent he takes from you
Goes straight up his nose.

It doesn’t quite fit with the rodeo comment.  In fact the song is more like a set of disconnected snapshots, rather than a coherent story, and somehow comes across to me as a song written very much in a hurry.

The other link we find here

You’re saying that you’re all washed up
Got nothing else to give.
Seems like you would’ve figured out
How long you have to live

is a sort of mirror image of Positively 4th Street

You say you lost your faith
But that’s not where it’s at
You had no faith to lose
And you know it

except that in “Belonged to me” the singer wants her, although he is berating her behaviour.  In “4th Street” he’s showing total disdain, and the disdain is so much more powerful, the song so much more focused than in this later effort.

My unhappiness about “If you belonged to me” thus comes from the feeling (and it is nothing more than that, just a feeling) that Dylan was coming up with some good lines and then rushing in with the rest of the lyrics to complete the song, adding lyrics whether they particularly fit or not.  For example with

Waltzing round the room tonight
In someone else’s clothes.
You’re always coming out of things
Smelling like a rose.

the last two line neither follow from the first two, nor have the power of the image of the first two.  “Smelling like a rose” has all the sign of being quickly thrown in to make the rhyme.  Which is a shame, because within the context of pop and rock, I can’t think of anything else that has the image of waltzing in someone else’s clothes.  It deserved a better second couplet than it got, in my view.

In the end

Waltzing round the room tonight
In someone else’s clothes.


You say let’s go to the rodeo
And see some cowboy fall.

are the stand out couplets, and the rest of the song seems rather ordinary – a reflection I am sure of the short amount of time Bob had to write the song while a) no one else in the Wilburys seemed to have very many ideas at all and b) he was also producing “Under the Red Sky”, and c) getting ready to go on tour.

Here’s a link to the song, in case you don’t have the album.

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  1. There is another Dylan performance song to think of in this case is, ‘You Belong To Me’. I know it from the soundtrack of Oliver Stone’s Natural Born Killers. The collection on Spotify puts on display a rich sound palette, with music and lyrics worth analyzing.

  2. This is the Christian Dylan expressing the relationship of Christ and His bride – the church. Very straightforward. She’s partying, but she’s miserable. She likes to go to the rodeo see the cowboy fall (her fellow man suffering; she’s got no sympathy at all.) And the guy she’s with is Satan. If, instead, “you belonged to me”, the singer (Christ) says, you’d be like a baby again – you’d be born again, into Christ’s Kingdom.
    The post- Christian-period Dylan is so much better – so much more Dylanesque.
    This is”My Wife’s Hometown”, “Jolene”, “To Make You Feel My Love”. This is “Together Through Life”.
    This is a remarkable (duh, it’s Dylan) song.

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